The reality of life is that we can be “in love” with someone who doesn’t share any of our goals, who’s bad for us, who’s a terrible teammate, and who possibly doesn’t even care for us. When this happens, our job is to fall out of love with this person.   Someone who loves you in the true sense of the word—as a verb rather than a noun—is all that matters. If someone says to me, “I love you, but I don’t want to be with you and I have no interest in showing up for you,” then the fact that they say